I need help
I just can’t seem to get moving. Literally. I want this weight off once and for all time, but I don’t know what is holding me back. There is absolutely no reason why I don’t work on it harder. I know what has worked in the past.
Okay, so I can’t move to Poland, work 3 mornings a week, a couple of evenings and have no responsibilities beyond that, but still. I know how much I need to eat. I know how much I need to exercise. I’m on medication that would help me lose if I just put the needed effort into it.
Even though I am not a Dr. Phil fan, there is one phrase that sticks in my mind: What am I getting from being overweight? Honestly, I can’t think of anything positive. I don’t like the clothes I have to buy; I don’t like how I look, how I feel or the example I’m setting for my beautiful little ones. I am limiting my own life, both in time and quality. Why can I not do this?
Is eating so that I have energy and feel good really a sacrifice? Is eating one piece of pizza instead of 3 such a deprivation? Is 45-60 minutes a day really such a colossal amount of time? I waste more time than that surfing the net. Is being healthy, happy and a good example for my kids, my husband such a bad thing?
What do you all do to find the motivation to start and keep going? Do material rewards really work? If so, how do you balance out spending the money with guilt over spending it? I’m trying to switch my thinking around from, “I can’t afford a new wardrobe” to “I spend that money on clothes anyway. Most places charge more for larger sizes so you could 1 - spend less for the same amount or 2- get more for the same money.”
Has anyone done counselling for weight issues? Overeaters Anonymous? Do you recommend it?
Thanks for reading.
hey Diana I am with you as I couch potato at night asking myself why I don’t get up off the couch when it is only going to make me feel worse. I have not tried any formal counseling but WW does help sometimes to have face to face interactions with folks having the same issues
Hi Diana I understand where you are coming from. I actually used to do something similar, I would sit and contemplate exercising. I would pick it apart in my mind, how long, how hard, the nasty sweat… I learned to stop thinking about it and just do it (like nike says). I make it apart of my day, much like doing the dishes or taking a shower. Once you stop thinking about it and just go do it, it gets easier-I promise.
I am not sure if there is anything that I can say to you that will make you want to get up and go. I know what you are feeling though. It is hard to stay motivated. I go through this all the time. You and I both know that eating right and exercise almost always helps with the moods we have. We know it makes us feel better mentally as well as physically. I am stuck too and cannot for the life of me get it back. We both need to get back to it full force. Material things don’t seem to work for me. I wish you the best and hope that you can find your mojo again.
buddyslim is all the counseling i really need! everyone on here is grreeeaat! and if you need inspiration to get going…just re-read your blog! you had plenty of reasons in there why you should get up and go. alright…enough of this…get ‘er done!
I find it’s really hard then once you start get moving it’s a bit easier, once you get in the swing of exercising etc. Don’t push yourself too hard, you need to build up slowly. So start with a 20 minute casual walk each day, take your cd player or mp3 and put your fav tunes, I find that helps. Then when you’ve started doing the exercise you feel better phsycially and you feel you’ve accomplished something.
If you don’t want to spend too much money you can give yourself other rewards, like time where you completely pamper yourself, or do something you really enjoy doing like a hobby.
I find writing a log of the exercise you do is hlpful, you can see you have accomplashed something.
Good luck and if you ever need anyone to chat to I’m here